Lately, I've been on a "matrimonial" site, looking to find a life partner. When you are going for an arranged marriage, that's one of the things which help. But it's really hard to determine if you'll be able to spend your life with someone when you only talk to other 2 or 3 times. Really hard. I try to be as rational as possible but there's always that "what if" that keeps lurking. It's about committing to a person but if they are fundamentally different to who you are, there are very high chances you'd not be living a life of satisfaction.
A Buddhist/Hindu/Eastern philosophical mind would disagree with that. They'd say happiness is within and not to be sought outside. But I haven't reached that stage yet and I'm very much anxious about making sure that I find the right mate for myself and my partner feels the same.
I've read a lot of articles and listened to so many people talking about it that I came down to the following guidelines:
1. Being compatible in our day-to-day activities
2. Being aligned in our broader outlook about life
3. Similar outlook on money, child rearing and religion but I'd still go with 1 and 2 as the biggest ones.
In terms of qualities, it's even hard. A mature mind that respects someone and tries to adjust is as important for me as it is for my partner. Someone kind and humble would make a great partner as long as the other one has those qualities too.
Personally, I'm very passionate about doing things and I'd like my partner to share some of the enthusiasm. If one is positively effected by the mysteries and has a poetic view, it'll be even fantastic. I like nature and love walking. Countryside holds more of my attention and love than cities.
And I find that there are a lot of things I'm looking at and worried that it's just too much to ask for.
I'll have to keep my faith, won't I?
A Buddhist/Hindu/Eastern philosophical mind would disagree with that. They'd say happiness is within and not to be sought outside. But I haven't reached that stage yet and I'm very much anxious about making sure that I find the right mate for myself and my partner feels the same.
I've read a lot of articles and listened to so many people talking about it that I came down to the following guidelines:
1. Being compatible in our day-to-day activities
2. Being aligned in our broader outlook about life
3. Similar outlook on money, child rearing and religion but I'd still go with 1 and 2 as the biggest ones.
In terms of qualities, it's even hard. A mature mind that respects someone and tries to adjust is as important for me as it is for my partner. Someone kind and humble would make a great partner as long as the other one has those qualities too.
Personally, I'm very passionate about doing things and I'd like my partner to share some of the enthusiasm. If one is positively effected by the mysteries and has a poetic view, it'll be even fantastic. I like nature and love walking. Countryside holds more of my attention and love than cities.
And I find that there are a lot of things I'm looking at and worried that it's just too much to ask for.
I'll have to keep my faith, won't I?
